"For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." Ephesians 6:12
Your real enemy is not the one that is seen but the unseen one. Your spouse, or ex-spouse, your children, your employer or anyone else who seems to be opposing you is not the real enemy. We do have a real enemy and he is the one who is out to steal, kill and destroy. Our enemy is the devil. He goes about seeking whom he may devour.
We often talk about staying "focused"- focused on the Lord, on His purpose for our lives, on the vision that He has given us, on the mark and prize that is set before us. But we forget we are to "focus" on our enemy. Let me explain what I mean.
One definition for the word focus is: maximum clarity or distinctness of an image rendered by an optical system. When a hunter is in the woods and he spots the animal he wants to shoot, he puts that animal in his sights and gets it focused in order to have a good clear aim so that when he pulls the trigger he will hit his prey. If he doesn't have the animal in his sights and a good clear (focused) image of it he will waste his bullets and the intended target will get away. If we are "aiming" at others and focused on them as if they were the intended target/enemy we will miss the real enemy and he will get away.
My husband is a hunter and ever so often he has to readjust the sights on his gun. This readjustment makes sure that when he sees his intended prey he will have a clear image of it so that he will not miss. We need to make some readjustments from time to time when it comes to dealing with those that we consider to be our enemies. Our "optical system" (sights) is God's word. When we adjust or readjust our attitude toward the person or situation, and line it up with God's word, then we will get a clear image of what is in our sights. It will show us if we have the real enemy or the perceived enemy in them. And we will be able to take a more accurate aim--- and hit the real target.
Have a great day. Are you "focused" on the real enemy?
For further reading:
2 Corinthians 2:11
1 Peter 5:8